This morning I was in a great discussion about manhood with some really solid guys. JB was sharing that from age 35 to 40, normal men, well respected church going guys, have an unbelievable ability to make some of the dumbest mistakes of their lives.
He said that over the last 5 years he has watched several of his friends go through this process. Basically at 25, they dream of a great job, that provides all the money they want so they can have a great house & a great car. A wife and kids would be great too. A perfect family going on perfect vacations. If men could have that, then they would be satisfied.
But what happens is from 25 to 35, these men get all that and more. They are living in the neighborhood they dreamed of. Driving the car they always wanted. Working the job they thought they would love. But they find themselves feeling all empty inside.
It is at this point they go off course. (If not earlier.) They disengage from their family. They blame their dissatisfaction on their wives. The woman who made this whole dream possible, is now the ball and chain that is holding them back. Obviously all this money and stuff would make them happy if they were sharing that life with the “right” person, Right?
What are we doing now to prepare men for this great dissatisfaction with the world?
We need older men educating the younger men. Teaching them about life’s dissappointments before they come and aligning them with scripture, directing them towards loving others, making sure they are pursuing Christ. We need men to stop being passive and self obsessed.
We need the men of God to make disciples.